Tasks are a perfect solution to all the above. They give you something to do; they give you a chance to prove yourself; they give you a chance to show that you are better than everyone else. Understanding the why behind the rules helps absolve the Dominant from feeling guilty from following through with the agreed upon consequence for breaking the rule. Start by reading User guide.pdf. It contains instructions on how to get started. And then play with one of the demo scripts. License:

In the world of orgasm control, where, when and whether you want your sub to orgasm or not is completely up to you. It’s great fun to try over long distance, or just to see how far you can push your sub.

How does the sub interact with the program:

Andre, you wrote “Her comment being that I was not a child and she did not want to treat me as a child”.

When a task is given and completed, it doesn’t need to be continued. Once complete, the task is over. (unless it is given again) They are not recurring. Tasks do not need to be negotiated, but safewords should be discussed and ready to be used if needed. Why are tasks important? You don’t have to be cruel, and you certainly don’t have to listen to anyone tell you ‘you shouldn’t let him cum’. I never understood that as a working practice anyway.However, if an unwritten rule is broken, don’t assume the submissive knows what the rule is. Communicate, and use discipline as your means of correction, not punishment. Can rules change?

Touching Restrictions- The submissive is not allowed to touch or be touched by the Dominant. If the submissive shows their affection through touch, this can be especially difficult. Tone of voice- For me this is the greatest reward. Hearing my Dom’s voice assure me that I am safe and his, is the greatest reward. To me it’s the ultimate prize. When I receive that message, he affirms that I am a good girl and that I please him. There is a sweetness in his voice that I know is mine alone. It’s a tone that he only shares with me and instantly calms me. It makes me want to keep pleasing him. Conclusion I am a strict but fair Domme. I see any submission to Me as a two-way D/s relationship. The more I know about you, the better your submission to Me will be. I can however just simply be a key holder if that’s what you want. When you get a task, you have five days to finish it. We suggest you do it as soon as you can, but if you can't, for any reason, know that you have five whole days before the task times out, and gets marked as failed.It is similar in our FLR. My wife also wants a man who is something she can outwardly be proud of. But she lets me be the man in the house I want to be there: a beta male, submissive and also a bit masochistic.